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Welcome to the Shiksa's Guide to creating a happy life with a Jewish partner!

Welcome to the Shiksa’s Guide to a Happy Life!

Most likely you found us because you are in a relationship with a Jewish person and were curious or concerned about the differences between your way of life and what you are used to and theirs.

Maybe you just started dating…

Maybe you have been together for awhile and are thinking about a future together…

Or maybe you have built a life together and are looking for a community of people that face similar challenges that you do.

Morning Cup cappuccino with smileWhatever your situation, don’t worry we are here to help! The Shiksa’s Guide is here to help you create a life you love with your Jewish mate. You will find advice, articles and a community of people in a relationship similar to yours. We will explore Jewish traditions, Christian traditions, other culture traditions and combining those traditions.

You will also find great advice on creating, working on and sustaining a beautiful relationship, and family.

So go grab a cup of coffee (or tea if you like), sit back and explore our site.

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What is a Shiksa?

A Shiksa is Yiddish word used to describe a gentile female.

In the past, it had a derogatory meaning in the Jewish community, but in the today’s modern world it is usually used light-heartedly to describe a non Jewish woman in a relationship with a Jewish man.

Here at the Shiksa’s guide we celebrate being a Shiksa. We celebrate what we bring to our Jewish side of our family, and we celebrate being part of the Jewish community.

Our goal is to empower interfaith couples, families and friends to learn from, have fun with, and inspire each other to create strong, happy and full relationships.

For all you men out there that married Jewish women, don’t worry we won’t forget about you. You have a cute name too! You are called a “Shegetz” and we welcome you to the Shiksa’s Guide too!



Who is this Shiksa?

My name is Melanie and I am the Shiksa that married my wonderful Jewish husband Warren, over 16 years ago. It was a rough start, but we managed to commit to each other and learn how to create our amazing life together. Not only have we survived the last 16 years we have thrived!

melanie fine shiksas guideRaised by great immigrant English Anglican parents (although they rarely practiced any religion), the only Jewish person I new as a child was my Grade 4 teacher Mrs. Ross. She brought yummy latkes and dreidels to school for Hanukkah and matzah on Passover and tried to teach us a little about Judaism.

I met my husband years later and fell for him. It didn’t matter to me that he was Jewish. It didn’t matter to him that I wasn’t. It did matter to some people we met, and some family members, and we had some obstacles to get over. We decided that to make this work we would have to learn about each others traditions, religion and culture and find a way to make it work for all of us.

And we did. We now live an amazing live together, celebrating the traditions of both cultures and creating our life as we go together. With lots of love, commitment and communication we have raised Warren’s daughter into a beautiful young woman, built a successful business, raised 2 great dogs and traveled the world together.

We didn’t let our differences tell us how to create our life together, we chose to celebrate them instead! Many times I had wished for a resource like this one. So since I couldn’t find one I thought I would create one!

So welcome to the Shiksa’s Guide! We look forward to sharing our experiences with you and learning what worked for you!

Below you will find some of the areas we cover and some of our recent articles. Just click on the picture and away you go…..

When is Hanukkah this Year?

When is Hanukkah this Year?

Hanukkah is the festival of lights that usually takes place for 8 nights in December each year. As with all other Jewish holidays, it falls at different times of the month, and is based on the Jewish calendar. (download your Jewish holiday calendar below). This can... read more
This Shiksa’s Attempt at the Simple Challah Bread

This Shiksa’s Attempt at the Simple Challah Bread

Well I think congratulations are in order. You see I don’t consider myself a cook, let alone a baker. I put the challah challenge out there to challenge me as well as all of you – and if I do say so myself, I think I nailed it! That is hard for me to say... read more

Relationships & Family

Relationships with each other and with family can be difficult at the best of times. Add in a different culture or religion and it can get much more complicated.


Jewish holiday and food are the center of Jewish family life. Learn about different foods and holidays and how to incorporate your traditions with your partners.

Religion and Traditions

Religion and traditions in Judaism can be very different from most other cultures. Click here to learn more about this.

Jewish Food

Jewish food and recipes can be strange, yummy and symbolic all at once!


Life Events

Wedding, births, deaths, and all other life events. Check out our advice on how to handle these essential parts of life.

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